Lately, I’ve been around quite a few people that I don’t know, and I have noticed that many people are very unhappy.
I have also noticed that people, without exception, blame external circumstances for their dissatisfaction: other people, their boss, their job, salary, colleagues, life situations they find themselves in…
This happens through what we might call storytelling.
Storytelling is one of the most widespread plagues of our society. (I won’t go into how this is systematically taught to us in our families and institutions from an early age.)
What does it mean to tell ourselves a story? It means constantly explaining in our heads why we feel the way we do, why certain things are happening to us, and, most importantly, who is to blame.
The most common culprits for our own lives are: our job, the people we are surrounded by, our partner, our kids, relatives, politicians, traffic, the state of the world, the president, corruption, certain files…
And if only all of that would change, then we could finally be happy!
However, the solution is NEVER about someone else or the situation changing.
In other words – everything is within us. We hold all the answers and all the solutions for ourselves. Right now. So, not when this or that person changes, when our boss changes, when another political party comes to power, or when there is finally world peace…
What is the catch?
The catch is to stop living from the outside in and start living from the inside out. This means beginning to see our lives, and the world, as our very own creation.
What our physical world looks like reflects what we carry within and the true state of our inner world.
Events, things, and people that bother us do so because we have unresolved or buried issues within ourselves, and not because of the nature of those events or things.
A good example might be a person who irritates us but doesn’t actually irritate absolutely everyone. So, why does this person trigger a negative reaction specifically in us?
The circumstances we find ourselves in are not random. They happen or trigger us because, in some way, we energetically resonate with them. Otherwise, something else would occur.
Instead of blaming others and/or telling ourselves stories, we should ask ourselves what within us attracted this particular event or person into our lives?
When we blame external circumstances for our own emotional state, it not only fails to solve our problem, but also causes us to give up our personal power and fall into a victim mentality.
Also, if you’re unhappy or dissatisfied in a situation, the goal isn’t to suppress your emotions and pretend everything is fine, but to listen to and follow the feeling of dissatisfaction as it arises, and fully experience it. However, more on this in another newsletter.
You might ask yourself – Where do I direct my attention?
Do you focus outward – on other people, situations, and events? Or inward – on your own emotions and reactions?
This approach to life requires a certain level of awareness, as well as the development of a habit, and can be applied to all aspects of life.
For example, if you’re unhappy with your partner in some way, you might ask yourself what within you attracted this particular partner?
If you truly want to make a change and live a fuller, more meaningful life, try letting go of blaming everything else and take a sincere look at yourself.
Is this simple? Yes.
Is this easy? No. Shifting your perspective in this way takes effort and a lot of honesty with yourself.
Will this solve all your problems? No. However, this shift in perspective is one of the crucial steps toward taking responsibility for your own life and stepping into your personal power.That brings about a quality of life which is unimaginable with current state of mind.
Does this ever stop? No. 🙂
Until next time! 🤗
— Senka
